Thursday, September 17, 2015

1200 Calories

There is a great group I belong to on Facebook. Its called Jillian Michael's Workout Junkies. The group is filled with [mostly] women. I LOVE the group and the women in it. They are so motivational. I have started running and doing Jillian Michaels' workouts after joining this group because I love the results the women are showing.

Many of the posts on the group are saying that you should never lower your calories below 1200, and that it impedes weight loss. This is a huge problem for me...

I don't know if you know about my past eating issues/disorder, but about three years ago, I got down to 100 pounds. Getting down to 100 pounds was achieved by me eating 200-800 calories a day, with about one binge day a week. I also exercised as much as I could.

When I read these comments that you shouldn't lower your calories below 1200, my immediate reaction is to say, "they don't know what they are talking about!" The only way I seemed to lose weight was to eat a very small amount of calories. A pro-ana website I belong to has a ton of girls who lose weight by starving or near starvation diets. Hundreds of anorexics can't be wrong, right?

Yes, this is the type of thinking I've had for pretty much the last 15 years.

But over the past few days, something has clicked. I have looked back over the past few weeks, and saw my calorie trackers and workout results. I can say that my best runs/workout sessions are mornings after I ate 1200 or more calories.  My best workouts have happened following the days that I ate 1200 or more calories. I am slightly beginning to see that "food is fuel". I need to eat an adequate amount of calories to ensure a good workout and a change in body results.

I hope that by changing my habits and feelings about food, and continuing to exercise and run, I will get in the best shape of my life. I want to be healthy. I want to prevent becoming obese/overweight in my later life. When I got skinny by starving, I wasn't healthy. I was skinny, but squishy, not toned and fit.

I want to be toned and fit. I need to change my way of thinking to be focused on being fit and healthy, rather than just "getting skinny", I need to stop worrying about the number on a scale and worry instead about my overall health.

I am finally ready to fully leave my binging/starving/eating issues behind. I am ready for those 1200 calories. 

Tuesday, September 1, 2015

Let's Talk About Kids...

I think its time to write another post on my "childfree" status.

I am thinking about this, because I recently filled out my Year 6 questionnaire of the childfree study I'm participating in.

I discovered something when answering her questions, (as well as a few conversations I've had with past "love interests" of mine). When I am on my own, single, and not dating anyone, I am 100% CF-never want kids, no way, no how, uh-uh. Then, once I am dating someone, or thinking about dating someone, or considering dating them in the long-term, and if that person mentions anything about wanting kids, or having had wanted kids in the past, suddenly I'm all on board the baby train...

Not because I actually want a baby. I think its more that I think, "hmm, they aren't 100% CF, maybe the only way I can keep a relationship going is to talk about having kids".


After these relationships end, I always end up saying, "what was I thinking?! I don't want kids. Why did I even start thinking about that?"

I guess I am confused. But if my true self is the self that I am when I am alone, and its then that I am 100% childfree, then doesn't that mean I should be childfree all the time?

If anyone wants to "play" armchair psychology, what do you think's going on? :)

Sunday, August 23, 2015

My Yellow Umbrella Story

Who will be the one standing under this with me at the end of this post? 

One of my favorite TV shows of all time is How I Met Your Mother.

I love the comedy, the friendship between the characters, and mostly, the whole romance theme of the show. I loved watching Ted's search to find the love of his life. If you've watched the show, you know that there is a Yellow Umbrella that connects Ted to his future wife (the "mother" in the show's title). 

I have always wanted a yellow umbrella, and I started searching all over for one, without success. A good friend of mine knew I wanted one, so he bought it for me for my birthday. I was so happy about it, I broke our "no touching" rule to give him a hug. 

My friend was not a fan of the show at all, so he had no idea the meaning of the umbrella or why I wanted it so bad. And if you don't know the show, you probably wonder what my obsession with the umbrella is. 

For me, the Yellow Umbrella symbolizes the hope of "finding true love". I often looked at my Yellow Umbrella and fantasized about finding the perfect guy for me. It was all I could think about.

When I moved out to Texas, I was feeling pretty lonely, and I started thinking about my past. A lot of stuff happened between me and my friend who gave me the umbrella, and we both wondered if we had missed our chance at a long-term relationship between us. So we decided to test it out, see if any prior feelings were still there. Turns out, feelings were still there, but they were not enough to build a life on. Our lifestyles, circumstances, what we want out of life, our values, etc are way too out of sync.(which may be the case with all my prior relationships).

I wondered what would I do now? I finally have closure to all my romantic relationships of the past. Will I ever find the "love of my life"? Will I find "My Ted"?

As I flew back home to Texas, I had a lot of time to think and ponder about my life. I made a huge realization then. ALL of this "romance" and "love" stuff of the past four years have really been a distraction. I was so concerned with finding someone to love and build a life with, that I basically jumped from man to man. I thought that if I could just find the right guy for me, I'd be happy, and my life would fall in to place. 

If you've noticed, I've always seemed to have a boyfriend, or been married, etc. The times that I wasn't in a relationship, I was actively dating and searching for one. My adult life has been all about love and romance, that I've missed what I really need...

And that is to love ME. To discover MYSELF! How could I ever find the "right guy", if I have no clue who I really am, and what type of guy I really want? That's why none of my relationships have worked out, why they have been short, and why I'm always seeming to "date the wrong guys"-- because I have no idea who I AM! 

That all ends now. When I moved out to Texas, I promised myself that I wouldn't even try dating for at least a year while I discovered myself. I broke that promise for awhile. But now I feel I finally am serious about this. 

My Yellow Umbrella that once symbolized "the search for love", now symbolizes "the search for myself". Only when I find myself can I ever hope to find "true love". 

I'll be standing here on my own, discovering myself before I discover the partner who belongs under here with me.

Thursday, June 18, 2015

A New Life! (Proving my free spirit style)

I'm starting up the blog again...

In case you haven't heard, I am moving to Texas in one week. Texas was not my first choice of a place to escape Utah, but the circumstances are just right...

I have been wanting to move to a new place and see what type of life I can create for about five or more years now. I stayed in Utah to finish school.

Well, school is now done. I haven't found the job I want yet, and feel I won't find what I'm looking for around here. I find myself single again, and wary of being in any relationship in the near future. I have myself to figure out, which I have not allowed myself to do since I left home the first time at nineteen.

Texas is where I'm finding myself going. Partially for the job market, partially because I love heat, mostly because I have one brother living there already as well as his wife, so I won't be alone. And as a bonus, I already made a new friend who I feel is going to be one of my best friends ever.

Will I miss Utah? Sure. I will miss the mountains, the national parks close by. I will definitely miss my family and close friends.

This is my new adventure. I am so excited to see what is in store for me! Texas may not be my final destination, but I think its a good place to get a fresh start.

I feel this proves me as a free spirit, to get the gumption to up and move to a totally new place... just because I can.

I believe that by placing myself in a new environment, I will really find out who I am, and that I can make it.